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A few weeks ago I wrote a blog for a friend of mine and I asked if he had a problem with me sharing it here with you and he said go for it. So here it is.
One of my favorite stories in the bible is the story in John 5. The chapter starts off telling of how around this pool the sick, blind, lame and paralyzed stayed. They stayed here because and...
Pure Eyes: A Men's Guide to Sexual Integrity
Chapter 7 - Grab Your Shovel
"Daily Prayer"
As you understand the true nature of Scripture, your prayers will have much deeper meaning to both you and God. In following God’s scriptural expectations for you, you will have the confidence and certainty of heart to ask God openly for the blessings he...
This week Spencer Pratt went to one of the most well know porn production companies with a sex tape of him and his soon to be ex wife Heidi Montag. My question to Spencer is Why? Why would you want to do this to yourself let alone someone else? Videos like these come with a heavy price and that is lifetime of regret. I know because I have seen...
Pure Eyes: A Men's Guide to Sexual Integrity
Chapter 3 - So That's What's Going On!
"The Brain's Reward System"
The brain’s reward system is a handful of di!erent parts that help the brain remember important or pleasurable things for future use or enjoyment. These things could be a type of food, a special event, a certain sensation, a specific...
Over the last 3 weeks I have been traveling the highways of North Carolina and Tennessee. In my travels I have seen the words "Truckers Welcome". I have found that 90% of the time this is on some billboard advertising adult videos and entertainment. Why is it? My opinion is that these establishments are preying on truckers because the know that...
Eyes of Integrity: The Porn Pandemic and How It Affects You
Chapter 3 - Honorable Men " Equipping Guys for Sexual Integrity"Ways to Take the Thought Captive"
Following are some helpful and practical ways every man should consider in his e!ort to take the thought captive.
IDENTIFY THE LEVEL OF ADDICTION
It is crucial to understand the severity of...
In a few weeks I will be heading to the mountains with my family on vacation. We are going to be traveling the back roads in the mountains to see the things we normally miss and get off the beaten path. As we travel these roads just as I have done in the past I know that I will see signs telling me about dangerous curves ahead and to slow down....
Do you remember what is was like to be a boy? I most certainly do especially now that I have a 7 year old running around the house. As I watch him do his little day to day activities I see his need to explore. He is curious about everything and wants to know all about it. When he is outside I am waiting for the moment he runs into the house...
It doesn’t matter what issue you are dealing with you always need to have a measure of faith to successfully deal with it and get control over it. If you need to change something you are making it an act of faith to make the change. You need faith to believe that the change you are making is the best move and have the results you wish for...
Tonight I am sitting here as my little girl packs her bags for her very first camp. While I am watching her gather her things I realize that soon she will be packing her bags to start a life of her own. I am thinking about how many of these girls that leave home end up on a computer screen having sex with numerous men and women or giving some...
My wife and I were talking the other day and she asked me "Why do some guys think that you are ready to jump in the sack after they have been talking with you for a few minutes?" I told her that I was not sure but if I had to make a guess I would say that pornography is one of the main reasons. A lot of guys think that the world of porn is...
There has been plenty of discussion around about whether porn is harmful or really rather innocuous if used in a "responsible" way. I believe it is a rather easy question to answer just with the many testimonies of destruction that porn has brought on individuals, marriages, families and societies as a whole. In fact, I would say that peanut...
I would say that most of us consider ourselves working men. Some of us go in early and get off late while others go in late and get off early. We take pride in our jobs.If we take pride in what we do and work hard to get to the positions we are in then why do we risk it all to access porn at work? The Nielson Company reports that more than 21...
Its 3 o’clock in the morning and you’re asleep in your 68.5 inch long by 34.5 inch wide steal bed laying on you 3 inch foam mattress and the small curtain that is your only sense of privacy is ripped open and a flash light is shined in your eyes and you’re told in a commanding voice, “Next Watch!” The only thought that comes to your mind is,...
I recently read an article with this great quote, “Most men have, at some point, feared not being masculine enough, especially in the bedroom. Pornography speaks to that fear.” All of us at some point and time have felt inadequate as husbands, lovers, fathers or as employees.
Remember the game we use to play as kids King of the Hill. The game...
Fear is a funny thing… it can have some much control over us as men. My most recent example was when I was asked a couple of weeks ago by XXXChurch to participate in the online blog; I instantly felt fear. I felt fear because I was reminded of all the reasons I couldn’t succeed at writing blog entries for such a ministry. This is the same kind...
For the last 10 years I have been working for the prison system. One of the first things they teach you is about positional asphyxiation. Positional asphyxia occurs when someone's position prevents them from breathing adequately. A small but significant number of people die suddenly and without apparent reason during restraint by police,...
Hordes of celebrities are heading to rehab these days, and not just for drugs and alcohol. Big names — famous bad boys and famous good boys — are checking into treatment centers for help with “sex addiction.”
But is sex addiction a real disease? There are plenty of people who don’t think so. The DSM-IV (the manual of currently...
From time to time we have new people on our site sharing their experiences with all of us here at X3 Church. Today I would like to introduce to you Nate Larkin. Nate is a former pastor and self-described recovering sex addict. A popular and entertaining speaker, he is a co-founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks:...
In Jr. High I was not the best student. I was lazy and just plain hated
school. When it was time for progress reports to come out guess who got
them. For those who don’t know what progress reports are they are for
the guys who are failing. We got this mid term to let our parents know
that we had about 3 weeks left to get our grades up. When I...
I must admit I enjoy reading and watching TMZ. But, it saddens me most of the time reading the headlines and watching as the famous ones stumble around hammered or marriages fall apart. We have watched people destroy their lives and careers. These superstars are emotional train wrecks. I don't believe for one minute that TMZ is making...
I once had a lady tell me that her marriage was like a broken vase. She said because of her husbands lies their relationship was no longer like a new beautiful vase but a broken one that would never be good for anything. This lady was sitting in the middle of a porn show watching her husband work his job in the industry where the lies began. I...
There is not a day that goes by that we are not tempted with something. We are tempted with sweets,we are tempted to buy things we really don't need and this time of year tempted to cheat on our taxes. I bet if you look back over your day you used the words " I was tempted to.." you fill in the blank. I never realized how much I use that phrase...
This blog comes from a good friend of the ministry; Joe Dallas. Joe has a big heart for men that are struggling with the issue of sexual sin. I know what he has to say here will help many and shine some light on a very dark subject.
"To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, Thou can not then be false to any man." -...
Over the past couple of weeks I have had my head in several different books. While I was reading one book in-particular I came across an amazing story of how the Eskimos sometimes deal with predatory wolves. What the Eskimos will do to protect their family is someone will go out and hunt down a rabbit or squirrel. The hunter then takes a...
After hearing all the rants about John Mayer's interview with Playboy I wanted to read it for myself. I was not at all shocked at John's answers. Todays culture is filled with sexuality. We have porn but we also have all the shows and music that reference sex. We have the internet and our phones were we "sext" each other. I will have to give...
Just the other day I was listening to the radio and a song came on that I had forgotten about. The song was "Liar" by Henry Rollins. While I was riding down the road rocking out the lyrics began to hit me in the head like a hammer. With phrases like "everything I say is everything you've ever wanted to hear so you drop all your defenses and you...
This past winter in NYC we were blanketed with almost a foot and a half of snow. My daughter and I went out to play in the easily pack able snow. It was pristeen white. Beautiful, not a blemish, not walked upon (and thankfully no yellow snow). We began to make huge snow balls and throw them around.
We found a spot by the curb where snow began...
Hurry please! Someone call PETA because today millions upon millions of animals will be viciously assaulted. A recent report shows that the animal assaults are up, especially when it comes to dolphin flogging, monkey spanking and chicken choking. An intelligence report shows that these crimes are being committed by one handed terrorists. The...
New Life’s president, Larry Sonnenburg, spent the weekend past weekend (1/22 - 1/24) at the Every Man’s Battle workshop in Irvine, California. He reports that once again God and His Holy Spirit invaded that workshop and opened the eyes of men, many in desperate situations. Opened their eyes to see the truth and what steps are needed to make...