Physical Intimacy
For woman, physical intimacy flows naturally from relational intimacy within marriage. So, guys, if you’ve been remiss on learning the style of servant-leadership that creates and fosters relational intimacy with your wife, you’re probably experiencing an unsatisfying sex life with your wife. That’s perfectly natural. In fact, it’d be strange if it were otherwise, since relational and physical intimacy are bound together.
A pastor once said, ‘See that chair over there? That’s my counseling chair. Do you know what complaint I hear most often from married men? I’m just not having enough physical intimacy with my wife.’
My own experience in ministry confirms this. Readers of my book Every Man’s Battle send e-mails asking a variation of one basic question: ‘How can I get my wife to desire physical intimacy with me?’
Well, men, let me turn that question toward you: why don’t more wives desire more physical intimacy with their husbands? The answer isn’t mysterious. In the vast majority of cases, wives feel they have no real relational intimacy with their husbands. These women don’t feel loved and honored in a way that creates a desire within them for physical intimacy.
But here’s some news that should inspire you: every man I know who practices servant-leadership in his marriage also experiences a corresponding spike in physical intimacy with his wife. Men, you can’t put the cart before the horse. Cultivate relational intimacy with your wife, and physical intimacy will naturally follow.
Steve A -
Exactly. When you serve your wife, she wants to give herself to you physically. I always say "foreplay starts at the kitchen sink." By the way, I've been married 20 years and still a very, very happy man!
Hey Beloved, you have hit the nail on the head! We as men have yet to uncover the possibilities that exist when we have our relationships in order. Take the image of the cross: it has two axis - one vertical and one horizontal. In order for every relationship to operate as God intended, we have to first establish and maintain the vertical relationship with the Father through the Son. Once that is working, the balance for all other horizontal relationships will be in place. Do this brothers, esteem others - especially your wife - higher than yourselves and you will see a transformation that will stagger you. Be blessed in the Lord and keep walking in His Divine Liberty. Pastor DJ
im a guy,17 and i masterbate to pics of female models. I dont have a wife im single. i am trying to stop my addiction plz help me
This has been a big problem for me and I think that I have finally gotten the light to go off in my head, intimacy for me and my wife has always been a big issue with us or rather me. I think now that I have read a lot of articles and see one thing that shines out in all of them is serving your wife, make her feel that she is the most wanted thing in your life. So I have begun to serve her more, do the things that she likes and put myself last. I pray that over time it will show her how much I truly love her.