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It's easy to forget that many men who are working to maintain sexual purity are single men. There's a perception that the majority of men in recovery are married because they have more to lose. I, therefore, applaud all men in recovery and welcome the reminder that some are yet single.
I find that, if left unaddressed, many single men in...
Not many Christians debate God’s instructions against premarital sex. However, there is still not a consensus or a shared understanding regarding what constitutes acceptable physical affection and what is sinful. The Bible uses words like adultery, fornication, lust, and purity, all words that have very clear meanings. Yet many Christian...
Our contemporary culture desires its affairs to be as expedient, as convenient and as streamlined as possible. Yet when it comes to knowing others, and knowing ourselves, expediency breeds superficiality. In effect, guys, our love for expediency is making us strangers to one another, and strangers to ourselves.
Socrates once said that an...
Have you ever hung up the phone or left a conversation and felt as if you said too much? Have you ever wished you could take back something you said? We often learn the hard way that speaking without thinking can cause pain and create problems. And too much talking clutters and consumes precious time.
One way to refine your use of words is by...
For woman, physical intimacy flows naturally from relational intimacy within marriage. So, guys, if you’ve been remiss on learning the style of servant-leadership that creates and fosters relational intimacy with your wife, you’re probably experiencing an unsatisfying sex life with your wife. That’s perfectly natural. In fact, it’d be strange...
Psalm 31:4“…free me from the trap set before me”
Once more let’s review: Just as false intimacy was part of what helps maintain our addiction, TRUE intimacy will strengthen our recovery. This is our design: to have intimacy with both God and Others. In the Psalms, David equated knowing God as his Rock, Refuge, and Fortress with knowing God...
If you are new to the reading of these articles here is a short review: Just as false intimacy was part of what helped maintain our addiction, TRUE intimacy will strengthen our recovery. So this series will look at 4 of the many facets of intimacy which can be found in an intimate relationship with God AND with others.
This is our design: to...
Just to review: Just as false intimacy was part of what fed our addiction, True intimacy will strengthen our recovery. So this series will look at 4 of the many facets of intimacy which can be found in an intimate relationship with God AND with others.
This is our design: to have intimacy with both God and Others. In the Psalms, David equated...
Just as false intimacy was part of what fed our addiction, True intimacy will strengthen our recovery. So this series will look at 4 of the many facets of intimacy which can be found in an intimate relationship with God AND with others.
This is our design: to have intimacy with both God and Others. Last month we looked at the Psalms and...
If you attended the Every Man's Battle Workshop (and if you haven’t you are missing out) you will recall a session on False Intimacy. It seems that those who struggle with the Battle quite often struggle with intimacy. Which are what we were created for; Intimacy with God and Intimacy with others.
In Mark 12, Jesus is asked what the greatest...
Most of us, at one time or another, have wished that we were a different person. These thoughts may come to us when things are not going well or in times when we are in trouble. We may feel shallow or inadequate in these times. Our behavior may have been offensive or unacceptable to others, and we may be embarrassed or overcome with guilt.
At some point, almost every man feels incompatible with his spouse. During those times, most men secretly wonder if they should’ve married someone else. They harbor that secret from their wives for fear of hurting them. But truth be told, from time to you’re your wives probably entertain similar thoughts.
The real news here isn’t that people...
Forgiving those who’ve committed wrongs against you doesn’t necessarily guarantee and easier life. You may still have to deal with a difficult boss, wife, in-laws, or kids. You still have to deal with the every day stresses of life. There are pressures beyond your control that will wear you down if you aren’t careful to release them to God. So...
Corrie ten Boom, one of the twentieth century’s great Christian spokespersons, lost her sister and father in the Nazi death camps of World War II, and she barely escaped with her own life too.
Years after the war, she began speaking on the subject of forgiveness. After one address in Munich, a former S.S. man who brutalized and humiliated...
Who am I? Why am I here? What is the purpose of my life? What have I been designed to do? What is my identity? Perhaps the runaway success of Rick Warren’s book The Purpose Driven Life indicates that incredible numbers of people are searching for the answers to those same questions. Every man battles with these same issues every day. Steven...
Have you ever thought that God has a sense of humor, and this concept correlates in how we relate to our spouse, and He revealed it through His creation of us? When He designed us, God gave us a built-in design in how to relate to our wife. After we recognize the design of the architect, applied as the designer created it, it will work. If...
The decision to make a significant life-style change is important, but not as important as the plan for change and the resolve to continue following the plan when it becomes a grind. The experience of Nehemiah is both insightful and encouraging...
Discouragement in Recovery: A Silent Ambush on the Heart
by Invia Betjoseph
"Why don’t you just give up on me Lord? I’m hopeless!" Sound familiar? Thousands of Christian men have uttered those words out of sheer frustration. At some point they promise God that they will stop acting out their sexual fantasies…that THIS time they are ready… that...
"Then the Lord said to Moses, 'What is that in your hand?' 'A staff,' he replied. God said, 'Throw it on the ground.'" - Exodus 4:2 (NIV)
I know what you’re thinking. You’re wondering what some obscure Old Testament verse has to do with recovery, and particularly recovery in the sexual integrity realm. Well, as we look at it a little more...
It’s easy to say you love God but how do you show it? God’s hoping you’ll show it by loving other people. In fact, God has so intertwined your love for Him with love for others that when you seek and surrender to Him, He requires that you give up your hatred and prejudice.
In first John chapter four, the apostle John wrote: ‘God is love, and...
Every fall, like the swallows that return to the San Juan Capistrano Mission not far from our Southern California home, our family makes its annual return to the Rose Bowl, where the UCLA Bruins play their home football games. From the opening kickoff, I always edge up in my bleacher seat when the Bruins reach the red zone, that patch of grass...
Feeling like you are not heard, or misunderstood, is one of the fastest paths to loneliness. When we don’t believe that another person really knows or understands our heart, we can get lost in a crowd, feel all alone. Many men who struggle sexually will know exactly what I am talking about; this may be his daily experience. Tragically, it is...
Good day to everyone visiting this site and a Happy New Year. I hope that everyone had a good New Year. Below is a blog from Jeff Mcvay and he has a New Years blog that we would like to share. Thanks for visiting the site and we look forawrd to seeing what God has planned this year.
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Back to Our Knees in Recovery: Starting the New...
"The Christian is strong or weak depending upon how closely he has cultivated the knowledge of God." — A.W. Tozer
If Tozer is correct we need to understand, meditate and grow in the knowledge of God’s Holiness. But what is holiness? The most significant meaning of holy is to be “separate.” God is separate, unique, and apart from us. Being holy...
Well Christmas is over and we face a new year ahead of us. Here is to a new year and your well being for the up and coming year of 2010. We look forward to seeing what God has in store for you and this minsistry in 2010.
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"Celebrating God’s Attributes: His Grace"
by Mark Verkler
Grace defined:
1. The free unmerited love and favor of...
Well here we are only a couple of days and it will be Christmas. From all of us here at Every Man's Battle we wish you a very Merry Christmas. Thank you for being a part of this ministry and we pray that we have impacted your life in some way.
Steve A-
Our contemporary culture desires its affairs to be as expedient, as convenient and as...
Steve got caught. He and Amy were married several years when she found porn images popping up on their home computer that he thought he’d deleted. He told her that it must have come in attached to an e-mail or something. A couple of weeks later she caught him looking at Internet porn when she normally was asleep. She was devastated, especially...
One of the biggest struggles men have is living in a world where temptation is so constant. The life that God wants us to live as men of integrity puts us at odds with Satan. The Bible never tells us to attack the forces of evil, because we are not equipped to fight in the supernatural world. Instead we are called to protect ourselves from...
Welcome back to everyone and also to anyone stopping by for the first time. We are glad that you have made it to this site. Below is a great blog from our friend Sam Fraser. I think that many of you will be able to under stand this one and also gain a lot from it. Here is to a great week ahead.
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"Dropping The H Bomb"
There is a...